Does He/She Want To Go Back To Their Abuser?
Questions you can ask
- Has he/she stopped being violent
or threatening towards you or others?
-
- Does he/she still make you feel
afraid when you are with them?
-
- Is he/she able to be angry
without becoming verbally or physically
abusive?
-
- Are you able to express your
anger toward him/her without being
attacked?
-
- Is he/she able to hear and
respect what you are saying even though they might not
agree?
- Can he/she negotiate with you
without being accusatory or
controlling?
-
- Can he/she respect your right to
say "no"?
-
- Is he/she able to let you know
what they are feeling most of the
time?
-
- Is he/she able to express
feelings other than anger?
-
- Does he/she still make you
responsible for their anger and
frustrations?
-
- Does he/she respect your right
to be different and to make your own
decisions?
-
- Do you feel respected and
listened to?Can you go out, go to school or get a job without
his/her "permission"?
This is not meant to be a judgment of the person's
decision but rather concrete things he/she may not have thought about
before.
(This is taken from a brochure on EMERGE - a
batterer's program in Cambridge, Massachusetts.)
What You Can Offer Him/Her
Emotional Support: Sometimes he/she may
just need to talk and receive support or begin the process of looking
at what his/her options are. He/she may not make any decisions right
now; this may be his/her first step to making decisions.
Information: He/She may want information
about services available to him/her in the community. Let them know
what sponsors and support groups might provide him/her with the
support and information they need.
We are proud to be members of Asarian
International Org
| Feel free to e-mail me:
E-Mail: Admin
|
|
Asarian
International Org |
Privacy
|
Legal
|
Contact |
Copyright © 1997 - Inpsyte
All Rights Reserved
Webmaster: admin(at)inpsyte.ca